Challenges of Dating Apps
I kept my membership to Match.com for a year but my efforts to meet someone gradually slowed down and ultimately stopped after about eight months. I did have several more meetings that were basically like the ones I shared in my blog Match.Com at 80 on my website within the “Widowhood in Later Life” category.…
Read MoreProgress, Yes. But Men Still Do Not Value Women’s Work
Let’s not kid ourselves, the men are still in charge. We women trip over ourselves to have a career, have our voices heard, to be taken seriously. Sometimes we really do “make it” but, and I will contend but, the men are still in charge. They are the ones who decide if we will be…
Read MoreParent Adult Child Communication, so Important in Family Crisis
I, a typical mother, always cared about how my children felt and were doing in the world. Respect for them as people separate from myself was always a guideline I used when talking with them. As they grew to adulthood this communication approach persisted, but my timing, attitude, voice and choice of words had to…
Read MoreMatch.com at 80
My wonderful husband of 42 Years died after 10 weeks of hell combating pancreatic cancer. He never had a chance. I miss him. I miss many aspects of him and our marriage, but what I miss most is the simple fact that he “got me.” He had my back—and I his. He understood me, my…
Read MoreMothers Are Still the Primary Caretakers
In my book “The Roads Taken: Complex Lives of Employed and At-Home mothers,” mothers who pursued careers often remained the primary parent for the children. The mothers were the ones who stayed home if a child was sick. The mothers left employment early if an unexpected pick up was needed. The mothers made and went…
Read MoreNavigating Communication with Our Adult Children
I think it’s safe to say that when we mothers talk together, at some point our conversations will turn to our adult children. No longer a hectic life—perhaps working in a career or being a stay-at-home mother—our relationships take on a big portion of our focus and energy. The relationship with our children becomes even…
Read MoreWhat to Say to a New Widow
Our society is not great dealing with grief. Although we have our religious traditions, people are very uncomfortable when giving condolences to the bereaved. Condolences frequently come through sympathy cards. There are three types of cards: first, the sentimental card expressing “sincere condolences at this difficult time”—all printed and the sender only needs to sign.…
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